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There are two kinds of people in this world. One group indulges in backdoor fun in all sorts of ways, while the other is happy with vanilla sex, occasionally throwing in a twist or two for some variation. If you find yourself swaying between the two kinds, having experimented with vanilla and looking for some more adventure, you are probably reading the right post. Here are some quick tips for those tinkering with the idea of moving over to the other side.

Anal sex can be fun and exciting, provided you know what you are doing. There are some must dos that any beginner would find handy. Go ahead with the exploration only if both you and your partner are ready for the action. You must be on the same page to try something new and exciting.

Prepare Yourself

It’s important to be prepared for your session. Contrary to belief, anal sex is much more enjoyable when it is planned, and not just a sudden, impulsive affair. Some people simply don’t try it because they dread the possibility of pooping on their partner’s penis (or anything else that’s going into your backdoor). Anal douching is one of the first things you need to do when contemplating anal sex.

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Exploring your senses and testing the limits of your boundaries might be heady and exciting but there is no point in rushing things. More often than not people end up hurting themselves when they try to rush things during anal play. Start slow. A finger is the best way to start. Have your partner use a thumb or the index finger to massage your anus. Salad tossing is also a great idea before you actually begin the penetration. Using anal sex toys also can make a lot difference.

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I can’t stress this factor enough. Lube is sooo important when you are indulging in backdoor play that it should probably be made mandatory by the authorities. Unlike the sex organs like the vagina or the penis, the anus doesn’t lubricate itself, and since the orifice is so small it is absolutely important to lube up before you start inserting anything, even a finger. Go for the thicker lubricants, because they last longer, and you don’t have to keep reapplying the lube.

Foreplay is important too

Foreplay is an important aspect in all types of sexual play, be it vaginal or anal. It sets the mood and gets your juices flowing, making sex much more enjoyable. Indulge in foreplay before trying out anal sex, and always go slow. Both of you are entering into a new territory (i.e if none of you have tried it before) and it is always advisable to go slow the first few times.

Try out other stimulation

Stimulation of the other erogenous zones helps the body to relax making it more receptive than times when there is no stimulation. Unless you are having rough, hot sex, having shoved the papers and files off the table and getting pounded by your partner like there is no tomorrow, stimulation of the nipples, clitoris, or other zones like the ear lobes and the neck is a must for an enjoyable session. It’s the same with anal sex. Touch each other, kiss and explore your partner’s body to get both of you ready and hot for a mind-blowing session.

Anal sex is incredibly hot, but if you totally despise it, don’t try it just to please your partner. It might hurt a bit the first few times, and you may end up despising the entire sexual act, which kind of beats the reason for having any kind of sexual act. Try these tips only when you are willing and ready to explore the pleasure of backdoor entry.

Role-playing can be as kinky or naughty as you want it to be, adding spunk to your love life and boosting your relationship with your partner. While it can be very exciting, opening up the lesser explored side of your persona, it can be a bit daunting to introduce the idea to your partner. But don’t let that be a reason to devoid yourself of the wonderful possibilities of role play sex. All it takes is a bit of imagination and trust in your partner to bring out your kinky side. And if you still feel a bit shaky, think Anastasia Steele and Fifty Shades of Grey.

blindfolded woman in loveThat series revolutionized the way the world looked at sex and kink, making women go vocal about their desires – some kinky, while some not so much. A research conducted by Swedish intimate lifestyle brand Lelo revealed that women have been taking the action outdoors as well. They are doing it in the car, in the office, in public places and on the daily commute as well! Some have even joined the Mile High Club we hear. The coming of age of college student Anastasia Steele really has been the platform for women to speak out their demands from their partners.

If you are ready to start doing the kinky in the bedroom, here are some tips for you to bring up the idea and discuss it with your partner. Once both of you are on the same page you will be ready to explore the exciting world of kink!

  • Have the Talk – A successful relationship thrives on good communication. And there is no issue that a good talk cannot solve. So cuddle up to him, or pour yourselves a nice glass of wine and get ready for the talk. If you feel shy talking about it across the table, have the talk in bed. When both of you are comfortable, and there is no chance of any external hindrance.
  • Express your desires and willingness – Now that you have mustered up the courage to talk about it, what do you say? I’d go for honesty. Bring it up casually when both of you are relaxed and in bed to avoid any awkward situations. These are you most private desires and they should be discussed when both of you are in a relaxed situation.
  • Prepare a list of your fantasies – While sex is all about spontaneity and surprises, role playing will need some preparation on your part. For most role play sessions you’d want to get yourself some sexy attire to turn your fantasy into racy reality. Think mainstream ideas like sexy maid or nurse, office secretary and boss, or even teacher student fantasies. If you want an authentic role play session that fires your imagination and sets your sex drive soaring, you’d need some preparation beforehand. Go shopping together for dresses or props to make matters more exciting.

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Role playing takes away the boredom that sets in after some time, and the point is to have as much fun as possible. Fantasize a scenario with your partner and make it as authentic as possible. The action doesn’t have to be limited within the bedroom, and the teasing can start even when both of you are away at work. Keep the communication channels open and try to keep your work worries at bay. Remember, you are with the person you can open up to completely, and if things get awkward you are allowed to laugh.